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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am a SAHM mom to a one and two year old. My husband works very long hours. We recently moved and our new house needs some work, which we are trying to manage with covid and the supply chain issues. This week I was diagnosed with Lupus.

I am just so so tired and sad. I feel like I am failing my kids. I have no energy to do fun or educational activities or even get them out of the house. Our house is still a mess of boxes, workers are here all the time. I want to be able to do Christmas stuff but everything is just so hard.

I'm just so discouraged. Those of you who struggle with chronic illnesses, how do you do this? It's so hard to accept that I can't go at my previous pace. [/quote]

I’m so sorry, OP that is really hard. My situation is more episodic (chronic migraines that cluster) and I work a desk job so I always had some childcare. For me I really focused on trying to end every day with as much warmth and love as I could pack in, hoping that the kids knew I loved them and was trying. My kids were very freaked out by severe migraines (vomiting and literally not being able to open one eye sometimes) until about age 5. My younger one is still stressed but takes his cues from the older one who knows this will pass. We talk a lot about how everyone struggles with different things and this is Mommy thing that is hard for her but that there are always people who love us who can help if we really need it. My husband traveled some before the pandemic and that was scary but I have some local family and tried to have as many back up plans as possible. I think it’s good for kids to feel they have a lot of adults who love them who can help. I definitely agree with trying to get some help if you can in the form of paid child care. You really need to take care of yourself even though it’s hard. I do believe my kids get what they need in terms of unconditional love from me, even on the bad days and I bet your kids do too. [/quote]

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