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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If the spanking doesn’t surprise you and it sounds exactly like the parents you’ve always known, why were they allowed to babysit your kids for days in the first place? If you felt like you had no other choice because you were desperate for childcare, then what will you do the next time you’re equally desperate for childcare? This reads like you decided to take the gamble that your kids would be exposed to your parents’ tempers out of convenience, but now want to save face by showing how serious you are about protecting your kids.[/quote]

Not OP but I've personally struggled with this. My parents are very different now than when I was a kid. I have seen them with my nieces and nephews and I've never seen them lose their temper with them or touch them inappropriately. And my mom begs for time with my DD, begs to babysit. So I did allow it a few times. But then there was an incident with my mom insisting on doing DD's hair even though DD didn't want her too and was crying and miserable. After that we never did it again. She didn't hit her, thankfully, but it was enough of a transgression for me that I decided I couldn't do it. My siblings still do it all the time though. That's their choice.

My point is that it might sound very straightforward but it's different when you are dealing with real people and your parents are almost unrecognizable from the tyrants they were when you were a child. And I also felt pressure to almost reward my parents for having changed, because it is true that they understand what they did when we were little was wrong (or at least my mom does, she has apologized to me for it). But at the end of the day, I decided my kids' wellbeing is most important, even if it means making my parents feel bad. C'est la vie. But it was touch and I get how OP wound up in this crappy situation.[/quote]

That makes sense. I’m sorry for what you endured as a child and I’m sorry your mom didn’t do better with your dd.[/quote]

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