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[quote=Anonymous]No. And I don't have to.

We should focus our energy as a society on accountability for those who commit harm. We have become obsessed with this idea of forgiveness, of wiping the slate clean for people. Hate to break this to you, but no one actually has a clean slate. And it's not my job to clean it even if it was possible. The point is: you hurt someone, that hurt belongs to you. Forgiveness, refusal to forgive -- those are private matters. People wrestle with forgiveness and in the end some people choose to forgive because they decide it's in their interest to do so, to let go and move on. And some people decide it's not in their interest to forgive, they derive something of value in holding onto that resentment. No one gets to decide for anyone else how best to handle forgiveness.

But accountability? That's a public matter. We need to stop demanding forgiveness or asking people "what will it take" for someone to earn it. Irrelevant. Be accountable. What I think about it is up to me.[/quote]

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