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[quote=Anonymous]- Teased you about your appearance, even when it clearly bothered you?

--If this happened regularly and I'd asked her to stop and she hadn't, this alone would be a dealbreaker. If it was a one time thing, I'd let it go.

- Dated two close male friends of yours at the same time?

--Who cares?

- Lied to you about easily disprovable things for no apparent reason (I.e. told you she’d been out of town over the weekend when another friend had just told you he hung out with her locally)?

--If this happened more than once, this would be a dealbreaker for me.

- Asked you for favors whenever you saw her, large and small, and continued asking even after you started saying no to them (because you had started to feel used)?

--This wouldn't bother me, just keep saying no.

- Told several lies about you to a mutual friend, but weird ones— not flattering or disparaging, just random things that are not true and that you know she knows are untrue?

--Dealbreaker, as above. I don't spend time with liars if I can avoid it.

If it was just one or two of these I’d almost definitely ignore it because she has good qualities (generous, fun, likes to plan) and fading out if a friendship would be hard because of all the overlap in our lives. But it’s all starting to feel like a lot and I find myself annoyed or even angry with her more often than not. And before you mention it— yes, I have told her that this stuff bothers me. Except for the lying, which I haven’t mentioned because it would be really awkward and the lies are pretty inconsequential (but adding up in a way that makes me wonder if it’s a compulsion or something).

--Sounds like you've got a couple dealbreakers. I would drift, stop considering her a friend, and be cordial at social functions you're both at. [/quote]

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