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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You do have my sympathies, OP, but I will give you some tough love so you can get your footing back.

You've said the situation is the same as it was a year ago so it's obviously not going to resolve itself. Time for action.

First, contact the local senior services office in your parents' area or the local bar association. Tell them you need some recommendations for an elder care attorney w/financial planning experience. Tell your parents it would be a good idea for them to make an appointment and go over what their options are, and if they are willing, have you phone in for the conversation.

Just taking that first step may get your parents' attention since listening to an "expert" may be what they need to get out of their inertia and focus on choosing what THEIR last years will/can look like.

Second, your sister is the one who needs therapy. She must deal with her anxiety and prepare to go back to living life as a fully functioning adult.

The Elder law attorney should be able to help with this matter, too, as adult cdependent hildren are not unusual in these kinds of situations.  They may be able to provide resources.[/quote]

Meager savings is finally in the hands of best friend who is a financial planner. Meager meaning they got down to 22K from over a million due to stubbornness and bad investing. Tried for years prior but no love from my mother’s doctor who refused to state that she was not capable which is what the lawyer needed.
It’s simply too late, now that everyone is on board. The damage is done financially and both are not capable anymore of listening to anyone - they have no real options. That ship sailed. Sister called last night to say mother is getting winded very easily. Not sure I can get them to a place where I can help. Hoping husband will rent a home for a few months out there so I can help. On the plus side, little dog is home now and seems to be recovering. [/quote]

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