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[quote=Anonymous]Elderly parents live cross-country. Sister lives with them and is fairly dependent (she works and helps them but is paralyzed with fear at the idea of being on her own. She used to be very independent). This is going to cause ME financial hardship as all my parents have is the money in their home plus social security. If something happens to one/both, they have no other resources to help themselves besides the house funds. With my sister there, not sure they can sell that legally and the financial burden could crush me as that’s where it would fall. Love all of them, including my sister, but the situation is tenuous and is causing a lot of stress.

Add to this, a husband who is emotionally essentially gone, kids who have moved out (two are lovely, one estranged over politics), and feeling trapped due to a sick pet. The other pet who gave me the joy I needed is now in intensive care after taking a prescribed med that he had a severely adverse reaction to. I’m praying he survives. All I can think about is leaving everyone and everything behind (will take dog if he lives), starting over, and leaving the door open for those that want to be in my life. I just want to run. I’d go to where my folks are so I could help,  but they have a pet who would kill mine, and furthermore has bitten others before. It’s not safe to stay with them. They are in denial about it.

I’ve written about this before, hoping things would improve, but it’s still status quo a year later. It’s starting to really eat at me. I’m normally someone that bounces back, but I feel myself dropping into a deep hole. I wouldn’t call myself depressed, but I don’t want to get there. How do I strike balance?[/quote]

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