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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]1) Low income housing can be hard to find, especially if you live in a more wealthy area.  I wouldn't assume that you can get it right away or that it will be anywhere near your ex and their school.

2) Depending on school residency requirements, you could get into a situation where they have to change schools. Like if you lived in DC and then you moved to Maryland, if your ex also stopped living in DC they'd have to change schools.  Do you want to tee that up?

I think there's a lot to be said for hanging in a little while until at least one of the kids can get around on public transportation independently.  It's a real cluster trying to juggle all of the logistics of kid commutes and activities along with working a job.  Or wait until they are both(all?) in the same high school so that the commute is a lot simpler.  Really, really, really think through the logistics of how you will make your custody days work along with your job.

I'm not really a "stay together for the children" thinker, but staying together *because of* the children is different from staying together *for* the children.  The advantage of waiting until they go to college is that you never have to deal with the annoyances of joint custody logistics at all.  Don't underestimate it and don't assume your ex will pull his/her weight in this area.  Check in with a financial planner and also plot out how you'd handle things logistically.  You might not feel that *your* best interest is served by getting divorced now.

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What do you see as the difference between staying together for the children rather than because of the children?[/quote]

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