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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Are you sure it isn't related to something else you're doing or talking about that goes with weight loss? Like if you mention being on a diet or going to the gym or needing to buy clothes because your old ones don't fit - that could be heard as asking for support or affirmation. [/quote]

OP again. I forgot about this thread, but interesting to come back and read the additional comments.

I don't diet, and I don't typically go to the gym, even (yikes). I don't mention my old clothes not fitting. At most I mentioned I went clothes shopping, but nothing about the size. Simply needing or wanting new jeans, I mean... obviously if my weight loss is noticeable, that's the likely reason inferred by people, but people need new jeans all the time because their old ones are worn out or out of style.

I 100% don't talk about my weight loss because it's so fraught for me. And the thing is... if anything, my friends are much more likely than not to be "too polite" or politically progressive/fat-positive or whatever to say anything. So it's not everyone and it's not as effusive as I see among some social circles, but it's literally every time I lose weight, easily half the people who see me say something.

I guess it's mostly what folks here are affirming-- 1) I'm shortish, so it's more obvious and 2) I'm a bit on the cusp... not really thin vs chubby, but more like Jessica Simpson or someone else very curvy-- at a certain point, I am very curvy but not perceived as fat, but just 10, and especially 20, pounds heavier and I am in a different category altogether. Hm. I'm sure I just notice because it all makes me kind of uncomfortable and is emotionally fraught for me. [/quote]

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