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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I saw on the Parenting forum that someone had coined the term "new parent hubris," which seems like a perfect phrase!  I'm friendly with a woman who is a first time mom (former teacher, now SAHM) and she always has these confident answers for any situation or parenting question that moms in our circle have.  I actually have three kids, and often still feel like I don't know what I'm doing.  She only has one, but you couldn't tell based on how she projects. Part of me is really envious- how can a woman who only has one know more (or seem to) than someone who's on her third??  I don't know why this bothers me so much- I guess it's just my own insecurity. I think I'm a pretty good mom, but maybe it's part of the SAHM/WM thing that's getting to me.  She has time to go to parenting classes on potty training and make neat crafts with her kids. If I make it to the gym at lunch and get everything through dinner to bath and bed with little to no drama, I feel accomplished!

I know BTDT moms can be dismissive of FTMs' advice, but a lot of times, this woman's advice seems spot on.  She's a very nice person and I like her.  But why do I feel so envious and also a slight bit resentful at the same time?[/quote]

Well, she is a teacher so presumably has some training and experience dealing with young children.

But the affliction you're describing is quite common actually. Especially among parents that follow certain "philosophies" and have done a lot of "research" and thus have strongly held views about how things are supposed to go. You know them by the fact that they were militant (I'm sorry -- "assertive") in dealing with the doctors during their pregnancy, insisting on some optimal birth scenario, believe in nursing for two years, family beds, baby-wearing, and all the rest.

We call them sancti-mommies.[/quote]

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