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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your parents are still fairly young in their 70’s.  Just stay home for Christmas and let your kids have Christmas in their own home.  They should be able to wake up in their own home and find presents under their own tree on Christmas Day.  You can invite your parents to come over, but I wouldn’t count on them accepting.  Invite the cousins over to your house after Christmas.  Don’t let your parent’s and sister’s plans always dominate what you want for your own family.

Being an adult doesn’t mean sucking it up and accommodating your parents and sibling [b]at the expense of your kids[/b].  It means standing up and doing right by your own kids.  [/quote]

She doesn't say anything about her kids being negatively affected.  She does sound like 1) she has anxiety about her sister being the favorite child and 2) envious of her sister's lifestyle.  If OP is happy with her own life, she should try to come to grips with her own life choices and be happy that they don't have to squeeze into a relative's tiny house for Christmas.[/quote]

This is the OP. Yeah #1 and #2 are true. And my kids are not negatively impacted. Christmas morning will be spent in our house. We will go to my sister's in the afternoon.

Honestly I'm not happy with some of my life choices. If I could do it again I would pursue a different career path. But I am not going to go back to school as the priority is saving for the kids' educations and it's just not feasible for various reasons. I am in my late 40's and wish I had made different choices re: career when I was a young, childless woman. I wasted a lot of time. [/quote]

You could have pursued a different career path and still not made as much as sister and BIL.  A lot of careers involve hard work but also an element of luck.  Don’t dwell on the “what ifs” of the past too much.

What are some examples of the negative comparisons that your parents make?  Is any of it just a feeling that you have, or do they make specific comments?[/quote]

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