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[quote=Anonymous]OP here. PPs are right that I absolutely struggle with being "the bad guy". Though the reason I struggle is because my DH is being manipulative by throwing a fit whenever he doesn't get his way, thus making me the bad guy. I don't make him the bad guy when we do things he wants to do because I think it's reasonable that we sometimes do things he wants to do. But he can be childish and sometimes he thinks we should only do what I want if it sounds good to him. This just isn't realistic.

He and my mom and brother also have this idea that we must always do things together, which is a problem because sometimes what I really want is to just be alone or be able to do things on my own. I guess this is part of being an introvert surrounded by extroverts, but sometimes I think it's also that they are too reliant on me for things and need to learn to be more independent.

It's very hard for me to say "I just want to be alone, or I just want it to be quiet" when they are in my face trying to do activities or make me do something outside the house. But yes, I need to be more willing to say it. That's what I felt I was doing today but the pressure to do whatever they want never stops. I think I was too amenable when I was younger and it set a bad precedent. But the truth is that I used to be easier going in general, before having kids, because I just have a very relaxed personality and I really can be happy doing lots of different things. But now that I'm a mom, I have to give so much of myself. I am less easy going and my needs for down time and relaxation are much more acute than they used to be.[/quote]

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