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[quote=Anonymous]I am curious how certain people seem to engender tons of goodwill and attention. Because this is my sister, who seems to have commanded more than her fair share of adoration ever since I can remember.
My sister is one year younger than me -- Irish twins. This means we practically went all through school together, and I bore witness to her social ascension while I felt like the shy, forgettable wallflower.
On her birthday, her locker was decorated and people made announcements over the PA.
In high school and college, surprise parties were thrown. 
Now, as adults, she's the friend you see pop on your Instagram stories with about 50 different people "celebrating" her big day.

I'm using birthdays as an example, but it's everything: The boys who basically fought each other to take her to Prom. The husband who now fawns over her. She's just somehow extremely "celebrated" in her personal life. And, I guess what makes me really chagrined, is that she's not that great a person. It pains me to say this. She doesn't really go out of her way for others. She loves to be the center of attention, but it's me-me-me.
Even my mother, who tries to treat us equally, says my sister "lives in her own little world." Which seems to work just perfectly. Why do people go out of their way to adore her?

I'm just tired of it. I try to be a good friend. I look out for others. I am a volunteer in my community. I work hard. I try to be generous out of the kindness of my heart.

But you know what? Yesterday was my 30th birthday, and three people remembered: My mother, my husband, and my college roommate. I just feel raw and vulnerable and crappy. My sister, the one who gets a carnival thrown in her honor every time she farts, forgot.

I know it seems like I am channeling my anger onto my sister -- and maybe I am. It's just hard to be so close (and close in age) with someone who seems to get her bread buttered by batting her eyes. I'd love this, too!
How can I get a little love thrown my way? How do certain people seem to command emotional parades?[/quote]

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