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[quote=Anonymous]I've been there. She does already have an eating disorder. As someone who had an eating disorder, no direct conversation is going to help -- she's going to think you are trying to sabotage her progress, and will hate being talked at. My DH was actually the only one who got through to me, and he never once brought it up head on until after I was much better.  What he did was he appreciated that when I was completely nuts, it was probably because my body was starving itself. He would just decide we were going to go out to lunch/dinner whatever and have a meal, probably at a greasy spoon diner that we both liked. For some reason, when he suggested it it was fine. I'm not even sure why -- maybe because it was all non-verbal reassurance that if I did wind up gaining weight, it was okay by him, or also because after I had a good meal I was much more sensible.

It's a tough position, but understand that even if you mean well by many comments, she's going to hear them as attacks, and not concern. The last thing someone obsessed with these things needs is more scolding - they're already scolding themselves all the time and trying really hard not to fail.

I would also look to see what else is going on in your life.  I got very obsessive when multiple things were out of my control, and food was the one thing that I had absolute control over.  I couldn't fix x, y, z, but I could fix how many bites of things I ate or what ingredients were in them. [/quote]

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