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[quote=Anonymous]Young adult child (22) one year out of college.  Just started first job.  She is bitter and resents her family and me BC she said we didn't support her childhood artistic pursuits.  Growing up she loved music and we paid for many years of private lessons at our house.  In summer I would send her to various camps like art studio, pottery etc. Bought musical instruments and art supplies, easel, paints etc..  She mulled over going to art school for painting, but she never liked painting much at the time and was more into pottery..  I do acknowledge that I did discourage her from art school unless she was interested in teaching eiher high school or uni level.  She wasn't interested.  She went to a 4 year school and chose her own major (marketing).  For the past 6 months she's been in counseling.  I thought it was helpful, she wanted to go.  But they dredge up everything and she routinely brings up the wrongs of her childhood.  Her therapist seems to be feeding into this victim mindset.  Apparently I was a terrible mother who emotionally abused her BC I was neglectful by not asking her more about feelings.  I was always more of a black and white what's the problem let's see what a fix could be.  Apparently I'm not gray in my mindset and did her a disservice.  She said she was born into the wrong family and will cut ties as soon as she moves out.  I told her how much I love her and that I made mistakes but did my best, and never intended to emotionally neglect her.  I told her that act one is done and she can take charge of her own life and mold it into what she wants, but she said it's too late and Ive ruined her with generational trauma and all this other psych babble.  And no, although her childhood wasn't perfect there was no divorce, her dad and I get along, they had privileged upbringing and I worked part time for many many years so I could be there as a mother.  She  has mentioned that she doesn't like the idea of working for the evil capitalist model and wants to live on the beach and paint art all day.  She says boomers and Gen X had it easy and now the world is going to hell and she's not cut out for this world. She's always been sensitive and more emotional than her sibling.  She is creative.  Sorry for the dump.  Thoughts?  Im shocked but trying to be understanding since this is her feeling.  I just think the therapy is worsening it.  The interesting thing is she worked through college and after, and her colleagues always like her.  She is a hard worker.  I'm just baffled.[/quote]

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