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[quote=Anonymous]I have been dating a man for a couple of months (he is late 30s); we do not see each other often (every few weeks—not going to get into details about that). I am divorced with kids. (No, kids have not met him).

Anyway, we had planned to meet last night but I texted him during the day (and the day before) about asking when and where we should meet. He texted right after work and said he would call in a bit. I said during my texts earlier (around 4 pm) if I don’t have a plan of where to go and when it gets hard for me to do things last minute. I said let’s meet another time (and suggested two other dates) since we did not have firm plans and let’s talk after 8:45 p.m. after my kids go to bed.

He calls me at 8:10 p.m. He says at the beginning of the call, “How are you? Seems like you are MIA lately.” I said, “No, it seems the other way around.” I have been trying to nail down a time to meet on Thursday for days. (I am not needy and don’t text every day but I have been the one trying to get a firm time out of him to meet and personally, I don’t like last-minute day of meetups.) The chat after that was fine. I talk to him for about 10 minutes. Then I tell him I can call him back in a half an hour after kids are asleep because I have to put them to bed.

I call him back exactly when I said I would. He does not answer. I try again 30 minutes later. He does not answer. I text him back that he can call back if he wants to chat and say I tried calling him back. He did not text back. It is now noon the next day…have not heard anything.

This exchange is bothering me now. I feel like his behavior is passive aggressive—or something.

Also, when I first met him, about a week or two later he said he was going to call Friday night. I said I was not going to be available but we could chat the next day. He ended up calling exactly when I said I was not going to be around and could not pick up the phone. Then I ended up having to call him back that night but was super annoyed he called when I said I would not be able to talk. I feel like it is the same thing last night…I said let’s call after 8:45 pm when I put the kids to bed and he calls at 8:10 p.m. It feels like the same thing.

What is going on here? Is this passive aggressive behavior or what?
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