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[quote=Anonymous] This is a great point. I know you’re right answer I need to remind myself of this. What helped you to stop enabling your mom? I have to believe it was hard at first. I sometimes struggle w the line between ‘enabling’ and the normal give and take in relationships. Like I make doctor’s appointments for my spouse bc I know he won’t go otherwise. I don’t force him to go but say I made an appointment at x time cancel if you don’t want it. He always goes and is glad for it. Similarly he’ll take my car to get washed or detailed. Is this enabling or reciprocity? [quote=Anonymous]As long as she is able minded, step back and don't enable. She can choose not to get help for the anxiety and you can chose not to reinforce it by doing things for her she can do herself. I say this as someone who enabled my mom for years. When I stepped back she went berserk and eventually got on anxiety meds-WORLD of difference.[/quote][/quote]
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