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[quote=Anonymous]Yes, it's always been a WASPy thing (not exclusive to, but more common among) and thus then became a bit more of a status thing among others... and with greater equality for women, you see it more and more among women than you used to-- so it's a whole social thing. (I know I'm saying "thing" a lot, so sue me.)

Alcohol being the substance it is, it can easily (if slowly) increase over time, to the point that many people are considered clinically heavy drinkers while they feel like they are fine, NBD, "1-2 glasses of wine per night + more on weekends." But even at that level, there are a ton of lower level negative effects, and a brain dependency. It's just a fact.

And that's with the actual, standard 4-5 oz glass of wine, or 12 oz of Corona = 1 drink. For many people, that's not at all what they're considering one drink.

DCUM likes to act like this is totally fine, but it's like a lot of things that are common, but maybe not so "fine." This is why I loathe the phrase "everything in moderation." When many around you drink more heavily than you, you may think that 8 drinks/week is moderation, but for a woman, medically-speaking, it's not. And while I am all about challenging what medicine says-- sometimes it's pretty baseless, like the definition of "obesity"-- there really is more good than harm done at that level, to the average person, especially over time. Smoking only a few cigarettes a day was considered "moderation" in the 1950s, but now it's not considered extreme never to smoke at all. Moderation is pretty meaningless as a concept, at least the way it's commonly used.

DCUM will call me an uptight teetotaler (I'm not) who should mind my own business (but I'm not minding anyone's business). Once I observed, after cutting down on my own problematic drinking, that people were drinking as many as 3-4 drinks at a midweek volunteer meeting. I was told "YOU must have a drinking problem if you noticed that!!! Look at YOURSELF and leave other people alone!!" Like, yeah, no kidding, I do have a drinking problem. Is that supposed to be an insult? You must have a problem of some kind if you're threatened by this observation.[/quote]

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