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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DD,6th grade, broke down in tears right before bed last night. She said that she hated school because no one cared how hard she worked. She spent hours on a writing project, yet herfriend who wrote a few lines last minute also got an A, just like she did. DD had a great year last year in 5th due to her strong work ethics. Her teachers were showering her with praises and complimented her on her work on almost daily basis. I suspect also partially it was virtual  learning and they were were trying to keep kids motivated. This year with things back to “normal” and being in middle school, she is no longer getting the same positive feedbacks as she did before. Given the standards of mcps, we always told DD that she needed to go above and beyond in order to be well prepared for high school and college, and until this year she was happily doing so because of the kudos she got from her teachers. I am concerned now, that her only source of motivation is from praises that she receives from others. This will set her up for a lot of disappointments and unrealistic expectations in life. What can I do to help her so that she truly finds satisfaction in a job well done from within rather than compliments from others ?[/quote]

She needs to understand that school doesn’t not reward hard work. In fact, life doesn’t reward hard work. I worked much harder when I was doing manual labor for FedEx than I have ever worked in white collar jobs, but I made 25 cents over the minimum wage the first six months of that job.[/quote]

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