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[quote=Anonymous]DH’s brother’s wife in an introvert. She does not enjoy being around people and has made that clear. BIL loves to be around company.

We host a lot of social events for our friends (all couples) at our home. We usually extend an invitation to BIL and SIL since they are similar in age and love nearby. BIL gets along well with all other guests. SIL usually is quiet and has a scowl on her face. All of our friends are warm, talkative, interesting and happy to engage in conversations but SIL won’t bite.

Recently, we hosted game night during a popular football game with friends and asked BIL if they would like to join. They accepted. I watched as three other ladies tried to engage SIL in a conversation. No dice. Within 30 minutes of the party, SIL opened up a book, sat on the couch and read for the remainder of the party, only you get up when dinner was ready to be served.

The entire situation was odd. We didn’t force her to come. We specifically stated that BIL can join alone. This has been a repeating pattern. We plan an event and extend the invite. We never apply any pressure and leave it open ended for one or both to attend as they see fit. She comes, wears a scowl to most events and sits in the corner looking like it’s the last place she wants to be. During this last game night, I noticed everyone was confused -
There were limited seats on the couch and the only person not watching the game was sprawled on it reading a book! It was incredibly awkward and DH and I weren’t sure if we should say something.

My question - should we keep inviting them? She never says “No, I’ll pass and you all should have fun.” She always tags along and acts
like it’s the last place she wants to be. [/quote]

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