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[quote=Anonymous]My DH and I are very different people but are fortunate in that we agree philosophically on most things: money, politics, education, and from what I can see we have pretty similar views on parenting styles. The thing that is driving me nuts is that we are on two completely different planets when it comes to religion. I was raised Catholic and consider myself to be spiritual and believe in God, though I do not necessarily agree with some of the views of the Catholic church. I still go to church once in a blue moon (I would definitely go more if he'd go with me) and I pray almost every day. I have had a few major life struggles and I really do believe that my faith helped me make it through in one piece. We were married in the Catholic church, with a full mass and agreed to raise our children Catholic.

This is where things start to break down. We argued while dating and living together about the role of religion in our lives. I didn't want or expect him to go to church with me every week, but felt that if we were at my parents' home for the holidays he should attend mass on Christmas with us. It was very embarrassing for me that he would stay home. We finally came to an agreement that I would drop it for now but that when we had children, he would support my efforts to raise them Catholic and would attend mass with us each week. Well, we are expecting our first baby in the spring and DH has totally reneged on this. It is really upsetting me a lot, more than I ever thought it would. He claims that he never agreed to go to mass with us each week, WHICH HE DID. He also refuses to go with me to sign our family up as parishioners (at our local parish church, you can only sign up immediately after mass, which is kind of awkward to do by yourself) so we can get our daughter baptized. He promised he would go with me to do that and we kept putting it off for weeks -when I finally said, ok, we are running out of time and we need to get this done, he went back on his word and refused. He is okay with the baptism itself, but wants nothing to do with it - which is not possible!

I'm just starting to get frustrated with all of this. I am not trying to convert him and I respect his beliefs. Past generations of his family practiced a non-Christian religion (neither he nor his parents practice it) and he self-identifies as that religion in a cultural sense, which is fine. I am not trying to change anything. I just want him to support me, AS HE AGREED, and I can't do this by myself. I want my daughter to grow up going to church every Sunday with her parents the way I did, and I don't think I can handle a baby or toddler alone in church each week - not to mention the fact that as she gets older, she won't want to go, and the fact that her father isn't going will make it so much harder.

Any advice?[/quote]

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