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[quote=Anonymous]My parents (both age 70 and in great health) are still terrified of the pandemic.  They only leave their house to go grocery shopping once a week.  They do wear masks all the time (N95 masks specifically) so they are being very safe.  They will not do any of the things they used to do pre-pandemic and they won't see friends or family.  They are both fully vaccinated and got their booster.  They complain bitterly about how horrible it is to not be able to do all the things they want to do, yet they won't even go out with N95 masks and being fully vaccinated as they don't think anything is safe to do and criticize people who are going out.  I'm really not sure what to say anymore.  We are very Covid cautious as well but not to that extreme.

Anyhow, the main issue is that they live on the West Coast and we have not seen them for 2.5 years now.  We have two kids, ages 2 and 4 who are still too young to be vaccinated.  Pre-pandemic we would go out to visit them once every other year, and they would come here once a year.  At this point they refuse to travel anymore going forward and we are not going to fly out there on a 6-hour plane ride with unvaccinated kids.  They are content being Zoom grandparents and have no plans to visit us at all in the future.  I have tried to convince them to move out here but they won't do that either (they moved away 15 years ago to retire out there).  They plan to stay on the West Coast.  They have no family or close friends out where they are.

I'm kind of at a loss about this whole situation, and very sad that it will be a very long time before we see them again.  I imagine by the summer we'll be able to go out and see them, and maybe once every other year after that, but they don't like having us visit at their house.  They live in a rural area with nothing to do and they have nothing at all for kids to do at their house (no toys, fun things, they don't really leave the house).  It's much easier for them to come here.

How do I come to terms with the fact that my parents, who are in perfect health and are fully vaccinated, refuse to visit us, and won't move closer, and so they are basically communicating that going forward they will only be Zoom grandparents and are fine with not being involved grandparents at all?[/quote]

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