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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My sons middle school has two teams for 7-8th grade basketball. Varsity and JV. Varsity is for the competitive players and JV is for kids trying to complete the school’s sports requirement, but are not competitive (and some just being forced to play). My son is in 7th grade. He’s athletic and competitive by nature. Basketball isn’t his primary sport (he plays tennis and football) but he loves to play. He was placed on the JV team after tryouts and was very upset because he really felt like he was good enough to be on the Varsity team (and all his close friends were on the team). Everyone who tries out gets put on a team. [b]There are rumors amongst his friends (in the know with the coaches) that  the coaches decided that my son was good enough for Varsity but they needed a couple good players/leaders for the JV team[/b]. And this would allow him more playing time. Not sure how true this is, but I know my son would not get as much playing time on varsity bc there are some excellent players. He would be an average player on Varsity.

They had their first game today and lost 48-5. The boys on his team can barely dribble, shoot or pass. It was incredibly painful to watch. The ball would get stolen as soon as the team gained possession and the other team would run/score. My son is no Magic Johnson but was clearly the best player on the team (scored all their points) and had no support (no one to pass to, no defense, etc) I foresee that every game will be the same. My son was so down after the game. 
I honestly feel like he is too good to play on this team because he won’t improve as a player practicing at such a low level. It seems like a waste of time. 
He is not a quitter and will play out the season. I’m upset because he’s clearly not playing with kids at his level, he won’t have the same chance at improving as if he were playing with kids at his level or better, and the losses are going to be incredibly painful.

Any advice on how to think about this and support my son? My husband wants him to quit 100% (but I haven’t let him say this to my son).

I feel bad bc the kids on his team are smart, talented kids in all kinds of areas—but they are SOO bad at basketball. [/quote]

You must squash these rumors with your son, and nip that negative mindset in the bud.

If he was good enough to make team, he would have made the team.

How he responds to this will determine how he grows as a basketball player, and ultimately, if he makes the team next year.

He cannot control his teammates.  He cannot control the score of the game.  All he can control is his attitude, his work ethic, his mindset, etc.  This is a great opportunity to teach him that lesson[/quote]

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