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[quote=Anonymous]My younger sister called me last night and unleashed. She mentioned how much hurt she feels that my parents (particularly my father) shows his clear preference for me. She says she feels she doesn’t do anything right. She feels like she is always being compared to me.

I am very close to my parents. My parents have confided in me as they do not agree with the lifestyle that my sister and BIL live, particularly their high strung parenting lifestyle. For example, my parents babysit her toddler often overnight because BIL and sister are medical professionals and often work night shift. They don’t let the toddler come to their home which is 15 min away. All babysitting must be on my sister and BIL’s terms. My parents have to spend the night at aster’s house and are not allowed to take their granddaughter on a walk in the neighborhood. They are not allowed to feed grand daughter any food they’ve made - everything must be organic and “approved.” My parents feel a bit sad and resentful and untrusted. They constantly compare her parenting to my parenting which is a bit hands off. DH and I don’t really manage our kids time with both sets of grandparents. We live 3 hour plane ride away from my parents.

My sister had a tough time conceiving - that combined with her personality has made her someone that my parents feel like they no long her recognize (their words).

I want to be supportive. She has turned to me. She clarified that she doesn’t blame me but she feels so sad. Anyone been in my sister’s shoes? What can I do to help the situation? (My parents are immigrants so “therapy” will not be an option.)

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