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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]“Kids, I want you to know that your father and I are planning to divorce, but I don’t want you to worry about either of us. We want you two to know that we will always love you, and we will do our best to minimize the impact. You probably know that Dad isn’t always to live with. We feel we will both be happier if we live apart.” Blah blah blah

Try to keep it amicable. Sell it to your stbxh as his ticket to happiness. And, prioritize continued coparenting to make things easy for your kids. Celebrate birthdays, graduations, holidays, etc. together. Be kind. [/quote]

How do you coparent adults? [/quote]

[b]You make clear to them that their parents will remain a friendly team[/b] committed to supporting them jointly. You won’t turn into enemies who can’t be in the same room. I went to a wedding where the bride’s parents were literally separated in two different rooms because they couldn’t be together. No shared holidays, events, etc. Their bitterness and bad behavior has negatively impacted her life for decades.

[b]Do you want your college student to have separate updates with each parent about college graduation and grad school plans? Separate thanksgiving? Two christmases?[/b] [/quote]

In my experience this is totally normal for college aged children.  And separate holidays is exactly what people do after divorce if they remarry.

These parents are not a "friendly team" and they are not going to remain a friendly team!  If the OP's H is really as bad as she says, this isn't going to be easy for anyone.[/quote]

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