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[quote=Anonymous]I was reading the 15-lb thread and was struck by how often my weight loss is commented upon.

Pertinent here that I have a few psych/medical issues that mean my weight has never been *truly* stable for more than 6-12 months of my adult life. Maybe a few 2-3-year periods in the past 25 years where it's stayed w/in 5-10 lbs. So I've lost 10 lbs countless times, and 15-20 several, and 20+ like 2-3 times.

Always, always, always, if I lose more than ~5 lbs, I get lots of comments.

Especially in the past 15 years, I've surrounded myself with body-/fat-positive, politically astute people who would avoid commenting on weight loss, but most still say "Wow, you look amazing!" or whatever when I've lost weight. Whether unconscious or conscious, feels like a partial euphemism for "I like that you're thinner" because they say it far more frequently when I've lost weight, not usually when I haven't been losing weight (or when I've gained).

Or if I happen to mention something to a friend, even very obliquely ("Where do you buy jeans? I had to get some new jeans the other day...") they will say something like "I wasn't going to mention it, but I noticed you lost weight." Both sides of my family, as well as DH's, aren't unusually obsessed with weight (maybe one grandmother), but they all say something.

I am a little shorter than average, just under 5'3", so sure, 10 lbs or even 5 lbs is more noticeable on me than some.

However, I am not thin/average to start. Mostly this is me going from 175 to 165. Or 160 to 150.

So many people in the other thread said no one notices if they lose weight until it's more than 10 or even 20 lbs. Or that if they notice, they don't say anything out of concern about being rude or complimenting illness or an ED. I'm a little skeptical that's a larger societal practice, lol. But okay.

This just hasn't been my experience at all, so I'm wondering how to explain it? I'm starting to guess (more than one possibility), but really genuinely don't know.

Anyone experience this? Why do you think?  [/quote]

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