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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I need to know if I am out of line here.  My brother left his now ex wife for another woman.  In our family we refer to her as the mistress or side piece.  We are still very fond of SIL and have stayed in touch and maintained a friendship.

[b]We always took the stance the mistress was not welcome at family functions until after his divorce was final.  His divorce has been final since early summer[/b] but we still don't want the mistress around and have refused to meet her.

I am hosting TG this year and mom is hosting Christmas.  We told bro she is not invited and to leave her at home.  I was kind of condescending when I told him.  He said she is his girlfriend and we have no business banning her from family events.  He says his kids barely speak to him and have refused to meet her and he has no choice but to accept their stance but we should be more supportive since we are his family.

I don't think a family holiday is an appropriate venue to meet her.  There would be a tension there.  Bro is lucky he is still invited to family events. [b] Are we in the wrong for not letting her attend since he is now divorced and his official GF.[/b]  *gag*[/quote]

Well, you lied to him.  You said you didn't want her around until his divorce was final.  Now you say you don't ever want to meet her or host her.  So you are wrong for that.

I think you should tell him, "I'm still really upset with you for the way you ended your marriage and I judge GF for her role in it.  She's in your life and I see that, but I don't want to be upset about this over Christmas and I doubt you want to bring her to a place where everyone is cold to her either.  Let's give it another 6 months for tempers to cool."[/quote]

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