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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I 100% see where you are coming from, and understand your feelings.

My question is: is it possible that she is getting frail/afraid to drive? My parents and ILs are both reaching that stage of life, and I have compassion for that. If you say no, she’s in her 60s and doing great and drives often including distances just fine, then I think you can say no with no guilt.

But if you even remotely suspect that driving alone would be a burden for her, it would be an act of care and kindness to the mother of your husband to bring her along.

And if I may…I try to deal with my IL issues in a constructive way, and one tool I have in my back pocket (doctor prescribed) is 5mg Valium. In a situation like a daylong car ride, I’d take two and be still able to drive and fully participate, but it takes the edge off of my anxiety leading up to seeing them. In case that is remotely helpful for you to consider.[/quote]

Op here - thanks for your feedback. I think she is right on the edge - she drives often and does do long distances but she prefers not too. I don’t think she would consider driving to this city without us and would otherwise take the train. That would be a slight burden because she would need to navigate to/from the train station but otherwise I think this might be more about traveling alone or with us. And haha about the tool. I can appreciate that approach.[/quote]

Np I would ask myself what is the kindness thing can I do?  This is your husband's mother.  Surely, you can sit in a car with her?  How would you feel if you were the MIL and your D
IL said even though we are staying at the same hotel, going to the same event we need to go separately?

Choose to be kind.[/quote]

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