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[quote=Anonymous]I have a late 40s older brother who has done nothing with his life.  He still lives at home and is extremely irresponsible.  He has a heart of gold, but doesn't play by the rules of society.  My mom is not in the best of health and when she passes, there will likely not be any money for my brother.  He is very dysfunctional (drugs, lack of work ethic, doesn't pay taxes - works under the table when he works), etc.

I'm struggling with what to do and how to handle the situation.  I'm afraid my choices are to support him for the rest of his life (which we're not in the financial situation to do that), let him hit rock bottom and possibly end up on the streets, or come live with us.  My mom has enabled him for his entire life and I don't want to step into that role, but I also don't want to let him live on the streets.  He is currently not using drugs, at least to my knowledge, but he refuses to take any accountability or any course to change the direction of his life.  We have encouraged him to get therapy (we've found support groups which he refuses to attend or drops out), we've urged him to get straight with the IRS (we've offered to help and he won't do it), we've tried to get him to go to Narcotics Anonymous (similar to AA), and he won't do it, and I'm at a loss of where to turn and what to do next.

Was hoping that someone else has gone through this and found some things that worked.  TIA for any ideas or suggestions.[/quote]

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