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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Disagree with the PP about telling you. No one should have told you anything. Finding out a different way doesn't make it better.

Now you know. You can be hurt. And maybe don't invest so much in such a cliquey group. [/quote]

They should have told her. You just say “oh I can’t Saturday, I’m going to larla’s birthday thing.” Stating it matter if factly normalizes it. OP can take in that info (she is not close enough to Larla for an invite) and move on.

By avoiding telling OP, her friends made it weird. Like she was being excluded. It implies there was a conversation about it since they were all cagey about it (so likely discussed beforehand and agreed not to tell her). That’s sketchy!

Just be honest and people will figure stuff out. It’s when you get sneaky and withholding that problems develop. Don’t be weird.[/quote]

Yeah women can be so immature about this stuff. I had a friend, not a close friend, talk about some couples gathering she went to and then she paused and turned red and said "Ohhhh, I should not be telling you. We should have invited you and your husband." I was like "Why??" but wanted to add that we are not that close. In a million years I would not expect to be invited and we have other friends, but she acted like she had done some horrible exclusion. When she was matter of factly talking about it I didn't care. Once she got all weird it felt uncomfortable. Calm down...we have other friends too.[/quote]

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