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[quote=Anonymous]Amygdala hijack. A combination of past trauma and a pattern of frustration with your daughter is causing this situation to activate your fight-or-flight response. Dealing with teenagers is tricky and requires a lot of subtle emotional control. Once the adrenalin starts to flow you'll find your can't do it and things like your body language and tone of voice are operating on instinct. You need to talk to a therapist (maybe someone who does CBT) to help unravel the emotional triggers. In the meantime, you have to recognize the situations before they happen so you don't feel blindsided. Then, learn to recognize the physical signs so you can tell when it's happening. Then, when you can tell it's happening, tell the kid you are tabling the conversation and take a few minutes until the feeling passes, then come back to it (this last part is key, you have to come back to it or the teenager will sense it and walk all over you, even if they don't realize it). [/quote]
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