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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It makes me sad that we live in a world where our reaction to this type of story is to assume the worst.

I've been a parent in travel soccer for many years. Many of the referees I see are older guys, grandfather age to be honest, and at time I've even complained about them not being able to hustle up and down the field and keeping a closer eye on fouls etc.

I'm not naive about abuse, but can we consider that this referee, whom the OP described as "older," meant no harm and perhaps just gave into a bit of nostalgia at having watched this player over the years as he grew from a boy into a young man? Maybe the referee lost a son or a grandson; maybe he never had kids; maybe he is going to retire soon and was just happy to recognize an player that he had referee'd many games for over the years?

If this was all out in the open, on the field, in front of everyone, and as stated by the OP, both the player and his parent have "zero suspicion that the ref intended it sexually" ... why report him?  You know what will happen -- he will get some kind of reprimand, maybe be investigated ... for what?  A hug?

It makes me sad to think what we have lost somewhere along the way. [/quote]

Even if there was no harm meant, and it wasn't sexual, it is STILL inappropriate behavior for a referee on the field and he should be made aware of that. [/quote]

+1. I'm kind of an "assume the best" type of guy, but have a referee hug my son before a game and he hardly knows him and my son doesn't know him, that's a huge red flag. I'm not even thinking this was sexual either.[/quote]

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