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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]One of my female friends has been dating a man for about a year and a half. He's mentioned wanting to get married a couple times, but hasn't initiated a real conversation on it, set a timetable, talked about engagement rings, etc. which has frustrated her a bit.

The other day, he mentioned moving in together and she let him know she wasn't comfortable living together until after they were married. He was upset over this and implied requiring marriage before living together [b]means she doesn't value him as a person.
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I said that this seems like a huge red flag to me. He makes more money and doesn't need to be supported, but it feels like one of those "get the milk for free" things. Like he gets all the perks of a wife without any of the risk or responsibilities. And that if he valued her as a person, he'd respect her values. [/quote]

The bolded statement doesn't make any sense. She doesn't value him as a person because she wants to make a binding commitment before living under the same roof?

But anyway - I don't know that I'd call this a red flag, but it's definitely something that needs discussion if they are going to continue in the relationship - why is it important to him that they live together before marriage?

I agree with your friend to the extent that he boyfriend sees living together as a more serious commitment that lets him hold off on agreeing to engagement and marriage.[/quote]

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