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[quote=Anonymous]I’m early thirties and really wondering if there is still hope for me. I became ill as a late teenager/early twenties with multiple illnesses that really impacted my life. I had very bad vaginal infections - reoccurring BV that would cause yeast infections and UTIs - that had very bad symptoms ( bad odor) and just left my self-esteem very low. I also suffered from IBS which lead to very bad side effects. I also suffer from nerve pain issues. This really left me in a deep depressed state. I stopped going out and never dated - never had a boyfriend, because I was so ashamed and embarrassed. I worked a couple of low level jobs and then bounced around as a nanny. I was never able to hold down a job for longer than a couple of months ( though did one for 6months and another for 1 year) because of my illnesses. I was left in constant pain and deep embarrassment. I had a bad odor  ( from vaginal infections) no matter how well I kept my hygiene. I tried so many things over the years and nothing worked. I pretty much became a hermit because I was too embarrassed to go places and cut myself off from the world. I was never able to hold down a job so I lived with my parents until I was 28 and then my sister to care for her child.

Fast forward a year and I feel like I’m in a much better place. I met with a natural doctor who helped me immensely. She helped me find the root cause of my issues and I was able to eradicate my vaginal infections and greatly improve my IBS. I still have some issues if I eat certain foods but I'm fine if I stick to a certain diet. I have been seeing a chiropractor and acupuncturist for my nerve condition, and while not healed, I feel much better. I spent the last year in therapy discussing all of these things.

What I worry about now is all of the years I lost. I lost large chunk of my life where I was supposed to have a great social life, date around, build a career, etc., and now I’m worried it’s too late. I feel like such an outcast when I tell people I don’t have any friends, never go out, and have never had a boyfriend. I’m taking steps to better my life -  working a steady job and starting nursing school next year, but I just feel like finding a partner will never happen for me. I feel like a freak and most men will see me as a red flag and not give me the chance. I’m so behind my peers and can't compete with women my age. I do want to get married and possibly have kids. I just don’t know if it’s too late for me and I should just resign myself to being alone like I'm used to being.

Honest feedback from men is appreciated. Please no rude comments.[/quote]

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