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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I want a big law partner who actually does things to maintain connection to their spouse without their spouse having to say “hey please pay attention to me for half an hour instead of watching sports” to do an AMA. Clearly some of these big law attorneys are clueless and need help. [/quote]

I suppose I might qualify, although I don't want to do an AMA. But there are a few things.

1. I had to learn this. It is hard not to have the job take over your life.

2. My wife didn't work for years, and now only works very part time.

3. My wife did a good job of reaching out to me and making it easier to be fully involved at home, which I wanted to do.

4. Having said all that, we had, and still have, certain rituals where I could be counted on to be present, physically and mentally and emotionally. Friday nights. Sunday mornings. Certain one-on-one time with the kids. Date nights scheduled regularly (pre-covid). I would plan rusticating vacations where there was little to do but be together.

5. My ability to do all this has gotten better as I've become more established and less subject to other people's whims.

6. I work from home now and make a point to greet each kid when they come home from school and say goodbye and give a hug in the mornings. My wife and I sometimes go out for lunch on weekdays.[/quote]

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