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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think it's a little hard to comment on without more info. You say it's more than just the cravings but what else?

Is he not being sensitive to any real needs you have? It's hard to tell if you're expecting too much with this "special treatment" or if he's being very inconsiderate. To begin with, outside of your one example, I don't really understand what kind of special treatment you expect? Are you talking about superficial things like foot rubs, or more in depth things like being able to talk about your anxieties, etc.

Some well intentioned partners are just bad at the little things, but very good in a fatherly role later, whereas the latter is a lot more concerning in the long run/stressful newborn and child raising days.[/quote]

+1. I would drop the preciousness about the pregnancy now, if I’m being honest. You will need all hands on deck when you have a newborn, and you and DH need to be on the same page. Small resentments about your cravings pale in comparison to the stress and lack of sleep for those first few weeks.[/quote].

Good advice. Life is changing for you.  You’ll barely remember those kind of details before you know it.  [/quote]

+1. Mom of 2 here (2 year old and a 2 weeks old). If you had a kid running around at home and he wasn’t being attentive to the kid then I’d get it, but it’s just you. If he’s not super empathetic I wouldn’t bother getting upset at him now as you’ll need him more postpartum.

Pregnancy is exhausting, so if you have the money treat yourself a bit. Get your favorite ice cream flavors at the store, book a massage, if he’s handy ask him to help you decorate the baby’s nursery, consider getting a doula or another support person for the birth if you think it might be too much for your husband to handle by himself, and talk to family or a doula/night nurse about postpartum support if you think his attitude right now is an indicator of his attitude postpartum.
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