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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP you sound like you have very unrealistic expectations. I would not recommend you switch providers, the GW OBs are the best in the business. The midwives are b rate comparatively, and I say that as someone who was a patient with the group for 8 years and had my first baby with them. Those OBs will be your best bet for maximizing your CHANCEs of a VBAC more than another other group in the area.

Please understand that any birth can be empowering or traumatic. There are traumatic vaginal births and empowering C sections. Your use of the quotes emergency C section makes me sad - almost like you don’t believe you needed it or you don’t think it was necessary, when in hindsight you made the best decisions you could at the time and followed your doctors advice sacrificed yourself for a healthy child. That’s the mark of a loving, caring mother and you should be proud of yourself.

Have you been evaluated for postpartum PTSD or other mood disorders? Have you truly made peace with the first birth, or are you trying to have a VBAC to heal the first birth and give birth “the right way”? I worry you haven’t truly made peace with your first birth, that you have unrealistic expectations of a vaginal birth, and that you seem more focused on the mode of delivery (vagina or stomach) than you do the most important thing - the healthy arrival of your next baby.

Anyone doing a VBAC needs to be ok with trying for a vaginal and realizing that you may end up needing an emergency C section anyway. And that recovery is HARD. And you need to be ok with it, either way. I worry that you are putting way too much emphasis on having a healing delivery and are too focused in the mode of birth and are setting yourself up for disappointment and sadness if your dreamed of
Empowering and healing vaginal birth where the stars align doesn’t materialize. I hope you’re in therapy, you sound like you still need it.[/quote]

+1.  I had a vbac at sibley with Reiter and hill.  I think they were supportive but there are really no guarantees.  I also had a scheduled c after the vbac and I will say that a scheduled c is about as non traumatic as you can get…it’s very calm and organized.  But I think you would benefit on getting to a place where you are not triggered by the medical experience itself.  [/quote]

+2. I had a VBAC with my 2nd child. Hoping for another w 3rd - we’ll see. But OP, you sound like your head is not clear right now. No one can guarantee you a VBAC. The pro-VBAC websites can be very scary and confusing. I have been there, I know it is all a confusing and emotional process.[/quote]

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