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[quote=Anonymous]It makes you uncomfortable that he spends money on his daughter when he sees her, and you've made that clear to him.  But that's their relationship (and doing the bare minimum required by law is not good parenting).

Now he has a daughter with you and he's not spending extra on her - like you seem to prefer in parenting - but that makes you uncomfortable.

So your complaint with him spending money on his other daughter is not a philosophical problem with him spending money to buy affection.  You don't think it's bad parenting.  You just think you're in competition with her mom and anything he spends on his older daughter diminishes you somehow.  Now you've set up a dynamic in your mind where your daughter is in competition with her half-sister, and even though your daughter lives with her father full time, she's somehow "losing" because you've got a ledger in your head with past shopping trips that he hasn't balanced out in DD's first 8 months of help.

Your poor husband.  There's no way to win - you want him to pay for your house, not to touch your money, to pay for your DD, and to not take his older DD's calls until she swears a vow of poverty so she knows she's not as important to him anymore now that he has a "replacement DD".[/quote]

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