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[quote=Anonymous]I'm early 50s, married, no kids.

My mom died in 1999, cervical cancer. She died 7 months after being diagnosed. 
Dad died in 2008, of sepsis, after having been ill with complications for more than 3 years. Dad remained single after my mom died.

Mom was only 51 when she passed, and Dad 64.

Time has not been a good healer. I am still finding this hard, after all these years. My parents have missed out on so much, and so have I.
I sometimes get angry and sad inside when I see friends with their parents. Especially their mothers. Or when they talk about the all the fun things they did with their parents, like going on a shopping trip, having meals together, going on vacation. Christmas is a big trigger. Mother's Day too.
It all feels very unfair.

I often try and imagine what my parents would be doing now if they were alive. Mom would be 74 this year, and Dad 77. They would be retired and doing all the things on their bucket list. 
My parents always lived life to the full, for which I feel happy

I don't have siblings, so no one to share childhood memories with. I have aunts, uncles and cousins and their kids. My relationship with them is friendly but not really close.

My DH has been very supportive, but I still feel alone and sometimes detached from others in a strange way. 
It doesn't help that I don't have a large friendship circle. I have mainly acquaintances and co-workers but no close friends.

Any suggestions? DH suggested bereavement counselling but I've never had counselling or therapy before. I was brought up to solve my own problems.[/quote]

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