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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP this seems like something to explore in therapy.  Your mother was a child when she had you.

If you can find a way to view her as a flawed human who did the best she could, you might be able to find some compassion for herf[/quote]
Yes and no.  I am in somewhat of a similar situation as OP.  While it is true that my mother had a really tough time when I was born, I don't think that excuses her behavior and attitude towards me throughout my childhood.

I do try to be understanding of how difficult things were for her, especially as I am also now a mother and realize how tough it is to be a parent, but when a child is blamed by the parent for their very existence all throughout childhood, that leaves a permanent stain on the relationship.

Therapy can help OP with her own issues and feelings but it is not OP's responsibility to try to repair the broken relationship, especially if the parent *still* refuses to acknowledge what she did wrong and pretend that everything was fine.

I still talk to my mother. I support her financially, but we will never have a close relationship. And that is sad, but I have come to accept it.  [/quote]

+1  My mother is lucky my siblings and I have any kind of relationship with her. [/quote]

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