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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thank you for sharing!

I was Nicole from Marriage Story. When Charlie said to her, “You chose this life! You wanted it until you didn’t. And then you blamed me for it!” It was like everything in my life snapped into place.

I hadn’t been communicating and instead had been blaming my husband for everything I hated about my life. I knew who I had married and I had happily gone along with it, encouraging him and his career, until I decided one day that I was unhappy and done doing that. It wasn’t fair to him at all when I had been supporting him. I iced my husband out, too. Blamed him foe everything, yet refused to communicate with him in a proper way what I wanted to change. I just assumed he should know. But my actions hadn’t supported that, so how would he have known I was unhappy if I wasn’t telling him?

That movie changed my view on life.[/quote]

Were you a cheater too?  Did you work on your marriage after that realization or end it?

I think so many women get into affairs in the first place by romanticizing the women they read about in books and in movies, where the affair is shown as a wonderful thing and the dark underside and trauma of what it does to others---or to them if discovered--is never shown.  Hollywood romanticizes infidelity.[/quote]
I did not cheat, though I have no idea if, like Charlie, my husband sought that release elsewhere when I was denying him like Nicole was. I don’t care to know nor do I even care. Though my heart tells me that he didn’t, I wouldn’t blame him if he had. I was that cold.

We worked on our marriage and expectations and I feel we are completely repaired. I’m so much happier and content with my life now. We communicate, and I feel like we understand each other. I feel like I have control over my life again. We are also next level as far as intimacy is concerned.

Like with Scenes, these movies show how very important it is to COMMUNICATE and LISTEN. To pay attention to cues. I think most fail because people are stubborn and refuse to properly communicate needs and wants, or because the spouse fails to listen to these pleas, or doesn’t notice the cues.

Mira is SCREAMING in that second episode, yet he refuses to see her pleas.[/quote]

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