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[quote=Anonymous]What is with parents like this?

My mother had me at 16 and always made it abundantly clear what a burden I was. Every time she couldn’t afford something or had to pay for something that was broken, she would tell me how she couldn’t afford it because of me. She worked demanding jobs because of me. Even in adulthood, my successes were her failures. I am so tired of hearing how she wishes she could have had it that easy (as if it were easy? and as if I chose to be born?)

I’m not close with her, but now that she’s in her 50s, she likes to pretend things are perfect. They aren’t and will never be, and we will never be close like her friends are with their YA children. She didn’t foster that.

So she’s jealous of my ILs, who accepted me as their own and whom I’m closer to than my own mom. I’m not going to change my life to suit her delusions. But surely she has to know why our relationship is the way it is? She has to know how she treated me, blamed me, didn’t show love? Why are parents like this, like this?[/quote]

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