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[quote=Anonymous]I am a physician. Covid has been a mess. It was such a stressful tune and then I was unable to visit my dying father much last year because of travel bans in place on hospital staff - I would face had to quarantine 7 days before seeing my dad, then quarantine 7 days after I got back. And I have 4 weeks of vacation per year with 2 school age kids.

Now we have a massive bump in patients and a lot of our staff has quit and I am working 60 hour weeks. I am the primary earner, but my husband WFH, so he (thankfully!) takes care of a lot at home. Not much of a point in looking for a better job; my colleagues everywhere tell the same story: more patients, fewer doctors and ancillary staff, and no bonuses/COL increases “because of covid”. A few of my friends have gone part time, but say it’s a farce - you basically work full time for half the pay and no benefits.

My mother is simply furious at me. Last week - the day our dog died - she accused me of being partly the reason for my -very old -dog’s death because I was not “attuned to his needs” because of my work schedule. It was particularly awful because I love our dog so so much. She then told me that my husband and children were going to die early deaths and end up in therapy because I neglect them, too. I told her that I couldn’t continue this discussion and hung up. We haven’t spoken since.

Irritatingly, my mother is the first to report doctors to hospital management if she doesn’t get a call back fast enough. I’ve pointed out that her expectations of her doctors are part of the reason we have to work so hard, but she dismisses this.

TL;DR: Don’t go into medicine if you are a woman. You will work long, stressful hours for a moderately high salary, and your family will hate you.[/quote]

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