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[quote=Anonymous]Get the diagnosis. You may have to quickly get the person deemed incompetent at some point...(personalities can change and become less compliant) so better to have that done.

My experience is no doctor ever suggested these evaluations until I called and shared all my concerns. They can put on a show at the early stages and nobody wants to piss them off. You have to push for it with the doctors and share specific concerns. They cannot say anything back without a signed release, but they do need to take note.

Excuse my french, but there could be that one A-hole in the family who remains in denial without a diagnosis and sides with mom or dad to not do X, y or Z to keep them safe. I have a sibling who is physician who was that a-hole. The parent with dementia ended up getting into major legal trouble-long story and I was the bad guy pushing for over a year for an evaluation, taking away car keys and other things. So, I was demonized and ostracized while she was the saint. I endured tantrums and verbal abuse to finally get the parent evaluated. Scans revealed MAJOR atrophy of the hippocampus, etc, that could not possibly have just happened within a few months or even frankly a few years, but still I was the bad guy. Suddenly the doctor understood something was really wrong, but never took responsibility for feeding the denial and abuse.[/quote]

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