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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]An 11 year old simply should not be that consumed with fitness and diet. [/quote]

Agreed. I see a real red flag that she is jealous of her friends who are able to stay in shape.  I didn't have that sort of vocabulary until my 20s, and I grew up with parents who would go on the occasional diet.

I also exercised/did athletics/was active at that age, but I really think you need to keep a close watch on this and maybe [b]take her out for a walk/drive and try to feel her out if she is dealing with unhealthy feelings/fears about her body. [/b]

--mom of an 11 yr old DD[/quote]

I have been doing this on an ongoing basis, actually.  In the beginning, she asked me how she can get a 6 pack.  I told her about the amount of discipline that takes, and she said nope, she doesn't need a 6 pack if it means she can't eat anything she enjoys, or has to work out for hours at a time.  I have asked her what her goals are with the working out (it's 30-45 minutes a day), and she said that she wants to be fit.  Not fitness model fit, but strong, able to do pushups, situps, squats, and beat the boys at it, surprise the PE teacher.  The eating cleaner thing seems to have come out of that, in that she learned how much eating junk can sabotage any gains made by working out.

The PP's story about her son and soccer also rings a bell.  It was right around the time she started that she heard about a relative who is a serious soccer player, who is on a diet/exercise program (prescribed by the coach) because of their goals on the field.  She has never said that it has influenced her thinking, however.[/quote]

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