Reply to I have an egalitarian marriage, and I HATE it

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "I have an egalitarian marriage, and I HATE it "

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Women who have that arrangement complain because —for their family— it doesn’t work in practice the way it is supposed to work in theory. Just like your current arrangement isn’t working in practice for your family.

Though, honestly, you sound like a troll when you write “egalitarian marriage”. Who would want an unequal marriage. Just say that you want to work PT and focus on housework. [/quote]

Yes I picked the wrong word, you are right. I don’t think there is a single word to describe the concept of sharing all responsibilities instead of dividing and conquering. [/quote]

I actually think you did pick the right word. An an egalitarian marriage is when both parties take on equal responsibility for both paid and unpaid labor. You have a traditional marriage if one party assumes most of the responsibility for paid labor and the other for unpaid labor.

But OP to respond to your question: I think that moms don’t like working part time because they suddenly become the one who has to be flexible and on call with everything. They no longer get the benefit of a nanny or childcare but they still have to work some, so ultimately it winds up being more work, especially if the idea is that DH will have to do less housework.

I agree with PPs that you need a really firm division of labor. Kick your husband out of your kitchen. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics