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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I started parenting thinking all the positive parenting was enough. “Feet on the floor” instead of “no jumping on the couch” and time ins instead of time outs, natural consequences, etc.

I think this works for a certain type of kid (ie generally easy going and compliant) and doesn’t work for the majority. We learned quickly that if we wanted our kids to behave at home and in school and in other peoples houses, we had to be more strict. They are great kids who get complimented on their manners AND they love us and love to spend time with us—no bond breaking or resentment. It sounds like you need a more firm approach.[/quote]
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Here’s my experience. I have multiple kids who ended up 15 years apart. I was really strict and scheduled with the first 1-3. Loosened up with 4-5 and was far nicer, less strict and more positive/let some things go. I am back to being strict with #6. #4-5 are a constant battle with school deadlines and bad behavior, even now that they’re older. I wish I had been more firm. You can take being more comfortable with mom out of the equation.  In a big fan ox 123 magic and being 100% consistent…not mean but firm and consistently so. [/quote]

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