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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This happened to me except the reverse (I am the woman and had told my boyfriend the first month of dating I was pretty sure I did not want kids and that he needed to be ok with that and he said he was and then after several years of dating he changed his mind).

It's okay for this to be a dealbreaker. That said, you are the man, so if ten years from now you decide you want kids, you could divorce her and find someone else. But that's not really fair to her. She'd probably rather end it now and find someone who is ok with no kids if you want them and would divorce her later.

Take some time to think about it. Honestly, there are lots of great women out there who do want kids, so you could probably find someone else, especially if you are college educated, not overweight, and make at least 115k a year (sorry, just being honest).[/quote]

It's great she told you, and no shame to either of you if this is irreconcilable.  I couldn't enter into/continue a relationship with someone who didn't also want kids, personally, because raising children has been the most important future goal of my life for years.  (I have little ones now; no regrets.)  That being said, I have many happy childfree friends, single and coupled.  But if you can't imagine a future without kids and she can't imagine one with kids, it's better you both find someone who will suit you better.

I'm sorry you're going through this and good luck.[/quote]

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