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[quote=Anonymous]My parents live 20 min away, and my dad has retired already. My mom is thinking to retire from work next year, and help me out with my 2 kids. I and DH work full time, and we have 2 kids (one in daycare, and one in public school K). She suggests for me to enroll my youngest from full day (8am-6pm) to part time (9-noon), and dis-enroll my oldest from before/after care (7-8:30am & 3:30-6pm) (she will take him to take school bus which is 1 block away), and that will save me maybe $1700 something like that per month in total.

My mom does not speak English, and she will just let them watch tv or let them play by themselves under her care, and she says that she will do it for free just to relieve my burden from morning/evening rushes & saving money. It is not really about money, and both of my kids love daycare and before/after care, and I don't want them to watch tv or do almost nothing at home. My mom will not stay overnight, will commute every day to my home, and she says she would rather busy taking care of grandkids than doing nothing with my dad the whole time. My dad is fine that my mom comes over to help me out. My dad was the one helping me to take care of my 2 kids when they were 3 months to 2.5 years old.

Pros
- saving me money, about $1700/a month
- I don't have to rush morning routine & drop off/pick up and commute to work, and help me cleaning the house with cooking some meals. My house is a mess.
- kids may learn second language from my mom

Cons
- kids may get bored at home
- kids watch tv at home 
- could be some drama or conflict 
- I think it is too tiring for her to do that to me

I really appreciate it, and my kids are really handful. And, if I accept her help, I will definitely pay her some money. But..... I don't know what to think because I think kids learn more and more happy staying outside of home than staying home with grandma. My youngest will drop nap next year.  It won't happen about 9 months after, but I really need to think about this.

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