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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So this is nothing new. In fact, he did this exact same thing with his last girlfriend. On Saturday I get a text saying he wanted to let me know he was seeing someone, that it's nothing serious, he's taking it slow,  but that if gets serious, he would like her to meet the kids.

Fast forward 2 days and my 2 year old and 4.5 year old come home. [b]I ask my 4 year old if daddy has a new friend. [/b]She says yes, she came over, and gave her presents.  It was even the same present that the last gf gave her (makeup). Then says quickly "don't tell daddy I told you!"

The last girlfriend passed away last spring. I made myself too available as his friend in the time between all this. Finally set more boundaries a few weeks ago and said no to us hanging out at each other's houses because I knew it was confusing for the children. I guess that gave him time to find a girlfriend.

The worst part is her being told to lie. He's a huge liar and is passing it down. And it is very dangerous as far as bad touch etc to be taught to keep secrets. But here he is, telling her to lie to her mother about adults she is around.

We agreed after his last gf that we would not get the children involved unless it got very serious for a few months. I've never brought anyone home to the kids. Now I see it was just to control me.

I expressed all of these concerns and just said "I told her to wait, I didn't want her to rub it in your face." He doesn't get this at all. It's not about me, it's about the kids. [/quote]

The biggest issue is you seeking this information from your 4year old. She is not your informant of what happens at her fathers house.

Stop asking your kids leading questions.[/quote]

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