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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How do you maneuver through separation and divorce proceedings when, at least initially, you're still in the same house? We are fortunate that we have spare bedrooms, etc. but any tips on how to do this while remaining in the same house from a BTDT perspective? My spouse refuses to move out despite being the one to initially offer to do so, but of course is now rolling that back (par for the course). I work from home (spouse is an hour-long drive commute) and from a childcare perspective it just makes way more sense for me to be here for the kids, otherwise I'd be happy to move out. It's just not a logical course of action from the kid perspective.

Any advice? I want to nail down some ideas/parameters before filing. [/quote]

Maybe YOU should move out? Your spouse is already dealing with a long commute while you are flexible with telework. So maybe it would be less disruptive for everyone if you at least shouldered the move.[/quote]

Leaving two kids with needed child care to get to school in the morning, when spouse leaves the house at 6 am? 
As I said, I'd be happy to move out, but spouse won't let me bring the kids, nor should they have to upend their lives yet. One thing we both agree on is that kids stay here. 
We have a 5 bedroom house. It seems to make more sense that three people stay in that 5 bedroom house, rather than one person, and that one person can get a one-bedroom apartment negating the need for a one-hour commute. 
But as I said, I'm happy to move out. But the kids, and their needed care, have to come with me. Which isn't happening yet.
Spouse wants the divorce, by the way. I just happen to agree. [/quote]

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